Today I responded to a lovely lady from the UK who needs some help growing her business and came to me for coaching. But she’s painfully sitting on the fence; not making a decision.
It reminded me of where I came from and what I had to do to change my life. I was $70,000 in debt and $27 in my bank account. Doing the standard’ things just wasn’t going to cut it anymore. I had to do something different.
Here is what I wrote to her after she gave me no decision:
Hi Sue (name changed to protect her identity),
Okay. Yes, your response is a bit vague. In fact, there is no decision in it. So would it be okay if I shared with you what I’ve learned over 17 years of coaching? What took me from a massive debt to become a millionaire?
I know you want success, so I’d like to share with you what I’ve found that my most of my successful clients do.
They make a decision and then four things to gain ultimate success.
They make a commitment to do whatever it takes to get what they want.
They say YES to their dreams, even if right now, they just don’t think they’ve got what it takes. Then they:
1. Work out/decide/dream up what they really want from life, then
2. We work on devising the best possible strategy to get them there
3. We work out what they need (skills/tools/systems/connections/attitude) to make the strategy work, and
4. We take action on that strategy and remove any neural pathway that gets in the way of that action.
I know that sometimes it’s hard to make a decision because we don’t know what the future holds – and that’s acceptable to most, because that’s how 95% of the population live their lives. It’s standard practice. However, to really create a magical life of freedom, you have to do (most often) the opposite to what the large majority of people do.
To be extraordinary, ‘standard practice’ is no longer an option for you
Most people don’t realise that they’re making ‘standard practice’ decisions.
Last week my Singing Coach was whinging about a speaker she listened to at a conference she attended. She loved the speaker by the way, but was annoyed that the speaker was paid $10,000 for a short keynote talk. Then she said, “You speak! Do you get paid $10,000 a talk?” I stupidly replied yes at which she immediately said, “And you’re paying me $35 an hour for singing and you get paid $10,000 an hour!” She was obviously offended.
But while she was sitting there stewing, I’m thinking – “I could show her and coach her so she could do the same thing. That opportunity is there for her right now, but she’s too busy getting all bent up about it.”
So I said, “Money and time are two huge illusions, and some people do much less for more – but they did much more to get there. And no, it’s not fair. But everyone has the same opportunities in front of them, though let’s be honest here. Some decide to put up their hands and say, ‘let’s go for it’ while others sit on the fence; standard practice.” She of course sat on the fence and kept doing what she knew to do – and continued teaching me to sing. But she could of been singing a whole new tune.
Does this make sense to you?
Opportunities are all around you, but we don’t want to see them. We just want to keep complaining.
It’s going to take many mindset shifts to get you to sing a new tune too, because we favour our patterns. We love our comfort zones. It’s why the world is getting fatter and sicker.
To get out of our patterns it’s typically uncomfortable, uncommon, weird, different – but ultimately it will become your new normal and your new normal will be what others see as a life beyond limits.
You will be admired, lauded, applauded – and hated by some as jealousies rise. My job as your future coach is to challenge your thinking until we break those old patterns that are keeping you stuck in an average life.
We’ve got to keep untraining your brain, until you become your future you. If you want it, it’s right in front of you… A richer way to think is not standard practice.
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