Remembering Names – 6 Proven Techniques

Remembering names is easy when you know how. Here’s 6 ways…

Remembering names builds social confidence. Memory of the most important word in someone’s neurology is an all important edge. Not only business, but also in life. Yet so few people are taught the skills to master this daily game we play.

It could be said that remembering names is the best skill we can have to build our relationships. Try forgetting your friends name at a party and you’ll quickly understand the value of this one piece of advice.

One of the most important skills (in my view) is the ability to remember names of people you meet. After-all, a person’s name are the most important words in their neurology and forgetting their name is a major social faux pas!

Historically speaking, our name is the first thing we are given and therefore lives at the top of our hierarchy. Forget it at your own peril. However anyone can remember names, it is an easy skill to learn. How to remember someone’s name is just one of the skills we teach in our Career And Life Mastery Program and to help to help you, I’ll be brief – as I’m sure you’ve got lots of people to meet today.

The number one reason people don’t remember people’s names is because they are just not listening with their eyes. I know that sounds strange, however the large majority of people who get this wrong are not looking at the person’s face and listening while being introduced. It’s that simple. We teach this to rooms of 30 plus people and everyone after using these tips remember all 30+ names.

Here are the six essential social tips.

1. The person that’s introducing themselves are the only person on the planet. Ignore everyone else in the group and only focus on the person in front of you.

2. Lock eyes. When you are being introduced, be sure to lock their gaze, never take your eyes off them.

3. Repeat their name three times. The moment they say their name, keep eye contact and say their name slowly (this is key) as soon as they say their name. “Pleased to meet you (name)” is a simple reason to use their name, then you might ask, “What brings you here (name)?” and finally, “It’s a pleasure to finally meet you (name).”

4. Keep shaking or holding their hand the entire time as you’re being introduced. Physical connection tells your neurology that they are safe and so are you. This will lower your cortisol levels and so stress will be diminished. I know this might sound a bit strange, but trust me, it never seems weird when you’re doing it.

5. Breathe from your lower abdomen. Breathing lower will not only keep you calmer, it will also keep you centred and alert and assist in your confidence. And finally, here’s the big confidence trick.

6. Lift your sternum. Raising your sternum which is the part of your chest just under your chin will create an air of confidence and have you feeling quite empowered. You just have to lift it about an inch (2 or so centimetres).

Happy socialising.

Download the audio –  6 Keys to Remember Names – 6PR Radio Interview (4.31 MB)

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2 thoughts on “Remembering Names – 6 Proven Techniques

  • February 15, 2018 at 9:31 PM

    Thanks, Rik. Great advice! Now I know why you kept repeating my name and wouldn’t let go of my hand the first time we met… 😉 Bruno

    • February 15, 2018 at 10:09 PM

      You have a brilliant memory Bruno 🙂


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