Harness Your Self-Healing Power Through Meditation

Harness Your Self-Healing Power Through Meditation

Story by Cassie Steele. Photo by Guillaume de Germain on Unsplash.

Mindfulness is a technique spreading rapidly, after studies by Australian and American researchers showed that it reduces grey matter and therefore helps to maintain proper brain function. If you want to grow as a person, then you will need to achieve the highest level of mental clarity. Meditation is a way to beat stress, take control of emotions and overcome obstacles. To heal yourself and become a better person, consider engaging in Buddhist inspired meditation activities. This will help you to reduce anger, increase love and ultimately achieve even the most impossible sounding life goals.

Take Control of Your Anger

Anger is something that all humans could do with reducing. It will cause you to act without clarity, meaning you make mistakes, and hinder the formation of relationships.
However, meditation can have a powerful effect. A study published in Consciousness and Cognition journal found that just one 20 minute meditation session caused a decrease in blood pressure, breathing rate and heart when the meditater later experienced anger.

If you feel yourself becoming angry, take a few deep breaths. Focus on that feeling in your body. Really concentrate on it and notice the feeling begin to dissipate. You will quickly learn that anger is a temporary emotion, which is manufactured in the brain. Using meditation, you can clear your mind and act with reason and rationality.

Enter a State of Love and Kindness

Connecting to something transcendent won’t just benefit you, but others around you. You can meditate on the inherent value of other beings, viewing them as creatures worthy of respect and compassion. This will come back around to help you achieve your goals, as more people wish to work with you and offer the same respect in return. A study in the American Journal of Public Health found that kindergarten students who shared their toys were more likely to graduate college and get a job before 25, showing the power of kindness in achieving success.

Focus on Your Dreams, Make Them a Reality

Visualisation is the practice of meditating on a life goal. By intensely imagining the place you want to be in life, you can help to make it a reality. Often, people consider their dreams to be impossible, but researchers studying the brain patterns of weightlifters found the same neural pathways were activated whether they were really lifting weights or just imagining it. Therefore, through visualization, you are strengthening the neurochemistry required to achieve a goal. This is a technique used by many successful stars such as Jim Carrey and Arnold Schwarzenegger.

Meditation is an essential part of staying sane in a busy world. Beyond lowering stress, it will reduce anger so that you can make wiser decisions. It will also help you to be a kinder person, so that you can stop competing and start working with others to build success. Through visualization, you can further bring your dreams towards you until they become a reality.

Cassie Steele is a professional freelance writer with a passion for the spiritual world and nurturing her connection with her inner self. She loves to spend time in nature and when not working, is often found outside exploring the great outdoors.

NLP Success Pattern: Create your best year yet!

NLP Success Pattern: Create your best year yet!

NLP success patterns can improve any area of your life. One thing is as certain as New Year is coming is that people love familiar patterns. Though our patterns are not always helpful. Psuccess patternatterns help us to function without consciously thinking about what we’re doing – patterns are held in the unconscious. Patterns maintain the status quo and they’re the very reason we keep on doing the same things. Patterns are also the reason we so often don’t get what we consciously want. It’s also why new year’s resolutions don’t stick. We get stuck in our patterns and, without the tools or the know-how, we get ourselves into ‘ruts’. Ruts are merely patterns we want to break, but don’t know how. Here are some simple ideas for you to create an NLP success pattern and enjoy the best year yet. Read more

What is it like working with a Coach?

What is it like working with a Coach?

If you’re asking yourself, “What is it like working with a coach?” You’ve found the right page. I have coached professionally since 2002 and back in 2004 I started teaching coaches how to coach using NLP and formal coaching models.

I learned business from my many business start-ups and have successfully sold some of them. I used to think that my greatest learnings happened when I ran advertising agencies, but those pale in comparison to what I learned starting a coaching business. I gleaned a lot over those coaching years, so if you’re thinking about getting a coach, here is what to expect from working with one.

Firstly, your coach is there to help you. To help you to do what you previously couldn’t, so don’t get caught up on all the things that your coach will do for you. Remember, coaching is intended to get you to do the previously undoable.

Coaching is conversational, so if your coach does ‘Step #1’ (below) really well, it should feel like you are working with a very clever ‘friend.’

Not all coaching sessions or meetings are the same, though here is a guide of what is it like working with a Coach. While I’ve put them in ‘Steps,’ some steps continue happening while your coach is performing the next step. Depending on what your coach is helping you to achieve, the steps might include other elements and could be presented in a different order. My point here, is this is a guide, not a rule. So here we go…

Step #1: The very first thing your coach will do is help you to feel comfortable in the partnership – coaching is a partnership after-all. If they’re trained in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), this step will be achieved quickly and you won’t even know that you’re in this step. You’ll just feel at ease.

Step #2: Next your coach will elicit from you what you want or expect to get from your coach meetings. Your coach will help you to get specific about your goals or desires or what life for you looks like without your problems. Personally, I like to get my clients to complete a PreCoaching Questionnaire, which is hugely helpful to us both.

If they’re NLP trained (and I hope they are), they’ll also take you through the ‘7 Keys for Success’ and help you to create what we call, ‘Well-Formed Outcomes.’ By the end of this step, you’ll be clear about the outcomes of your coaching, more-so, your coach will know exactly what you want and what you need.

Step #3: Now it’s time to identify the obstacles that stand in your way. The things that stand between you and those outcomes that were elicited in Step #2. Your coach will continue asking questions to determine what needs to change or what you need to do. What is it like working with a Coach by now will be really clear to you. You should be feeling comfortable and excited.

Again, if they’re NLP trained, you’re in for some life-shifting moments, because they are trained to identify limiting beliefs, patterns, neurological pathways and conflicts that stand in your way and – they can help you to change at the most profound neurological levels. This is where the true magic of coaching begins and if your coach is trained to NLP Master Practitioner level – buckle up, this next step will be amazing.

Step #4: This is the stage where the coaching road splits in two. If your coach is not NLP trained, then you’ll end up with a list of tasks that you need to do to achieve your goals.

If your coach is NLP trained, then they’ll help to shift your thinking at the level of the unconscious (where you do things without thinking) so that you will be able to do what you need to do, to get what you want without experiencing the usual self-sabotage that most people experience. It now should be much easier to reach your desired outcomes.

If you’ve got yourself an NLP trained coach, they’ll be making sure you’re good to go after doing the neurological change work. What is it like working with a Coach? It’s one of the most exciting opportunities that you can ever create for yourself.

Step #5: Now for the plan. Your coach will work with you to map out the best way forward; a strategy if you like. There will be specific tasks laid out in detail and ideal completion dates and/or times. This way everyone is clear what needs to be done and by when. If we are to enter unchartered territory, we’ll need this map.

Now we know what to do next and we should feel like we can do all that needs to be done. If not, we’ll deal with those limitations in our next coach meeting.

Step #6: Now it’s time to end the session, but before doing so, you’ll work with your coach to decide when is the ideal time to reconnect for your next coach meeting. Remember this is a partnership.

Some coaches and their clients like to pre-arrange all their meeting dates and times in advance – and of course, this is okay too as it saves doing ‘Step #6’ at the end of each meeting.

The next session: Here you both address the list of tasks from the previous meeting, to see what was done and what wasn’t. Now this is not a parent/child relationship, so don’t expect to get into trouble for not completing any tasks. You’re both adults after-all. Though should there remain uncompleted tasks, this creates an opportunity for your coach to find out more about you – perhaps there are underlying issues surrounding ‘procrastination’ for example. This can be removed as a disruptive and unproductive program in the next session.

Coaching is an amazing partnership. It’s like having someone on your side, in your success team. They will see what you can’t and help you to do what you previously couldn’t. Anyone who is serious about success in their career, relationships, health, wealth and their life in general really should consider getting a coach. After-all, every champion has a coach, so should you.

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Secondary gain – An issue for both client and coach

Secondary gain – An issue for both client and coach

Secondary gain is problem for not only a Life Coach’s client, but also the Coach.

The clock says its eight fifteen and I know I should have wrapped up this coaching session ages ago. But my client needs all the help they secondary gaincan get and I’ve got no other appointments in my diary for another hour or so. So I may as well continue.

What do you think?

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The Relationship Edge: Your first 7 seconds are critical

The Relationship Edge: Your first 7 seconds are critical

relationship edgeDo you want to get the relationship edge? There are seven things you need to know. The moment a stranger notices you, their brain makes 11 major decisions and a multitude of computations. Are you safe? Can you be trusted? Do you have status or authority? Will you be a potential intimate partner? Are you competent? Do you look like a friend or foe? Do you appear like you’re selling, compelling or repelling? Read more

Beyond Depression – 7 Tips to Terrific!

Beyond Depression – 7 Tips to Terrific!

So motivated by the latest research on depression, I just had to write beyond depressionbeyond depression. As a depression specialist, I know it doesn’t have to be that way. There are ways to remove the shackles of depression from our lives.

Recent research revealed that one in six men and one in four women will suffer depression. One in 20 will endure Bipolar (formally ‘manic depression’) and depression is now the #1 health concern in Australia.

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Change your focus, change your life

Change your focus, change your life

focusIf you change your focus, you change your life. Nothing is simpler. Though where do you start in the process of change? How can you improve your life in profound and positive ways? Your answers are hidden in your values and beliefs. Though the first step of change is to get off your RAS! (but I’ll explain that later…)

“Whatever you focus upon expands,” is something we say in NLP circles. Does that mean if you ‘focus’ on being happy you will have more happiness? We’ll yes. As long as your focus is on all the things that make you happy; instead of the aspects of your life that don’t. So how does that really work?

We can change our focus by getting off our RAS!

The catalyst to focus is your “Reticular Activating System” or your “RAS.”  It is the name given to part of the brain (the Reticular Formation and its connections) that arouses and motivates you. The RAS in essence, determines how you view yourself and the world around you.  It is situated at the core of the brain stem between the myelencephalon (medulla) and metencephalon (midbrain).

The RAS is that little bundle of cells you have in the back of your brain known as the “control centre.”  It serves as the filter for what enters your conscious and unconscious mind.  This makes sense why after watching a horror movie, the darkness takes on a more sinister aura.

According to Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in his book, Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, “We filter around 2 million bits of information per second down to 7 plus or minus 2 chunks of information.” In other words, the data available to your central nervous system goes through a process of deletion, distortion and generalisation. Today with the regular bombardment of sensory data, your RAS helps you to make sense of all the information swarming around you like bees. Our RAS defines how we treat the swarms of data and makes sense why some people always get stung, while others get the honey.

Your beliefs and values guide what your RAS focuses upon.

The system in charge of sorting the information is your RAS. The RAS is a self-filtering function that chooses what you accept and reject based upon your beliefs, values and prejudices. So wherever you focus, determines what you experience and don’t experience. In other words, “Whatever you focus upon expands.”

Focusing on two or three key areas of business or a singular goal does something special to your behaviour. It triggers your RAS to be on alert. Your brain is assaulted by thousands of messages each second. Everything you see, hear, smell, feel and touch is a message entering your brain. The RAS filters through all these messages and decides which ones will get page one treatment – that is, arouse the brain.

One of the things we’ve learned from working with students in our NLP Practitioner Training program, is that you tend to pay attention to the things which are important to you at the time. If your dominant thoughts are about creating a new business, you’ll start seeing other what other businesses do and you will get ideas. You’ll hear conversations about new business models. You’ll pick up ideas relating to new business ventures and even see things around you in a different way and relate it back to business.

Your RAS is programmed to determine what is important to you.

In other words, the RAS will reject or ignore anything unrelated to your focus and bring to your attention anything that is even remotely related to your focus. This makes sense why starting a new business will often mean that relationships and health for example, take a back seat for some time until the business is up and running.

From a practical point of view, this means that, if you want to solve a problem or achieve a goal, keep it top of mind. Think about it, talk about it, write about it and imagine it completed. This is one of the reasons why affirmations can work and why it is important to review your goals frequently. Affirmations simply direct your focus in the area of your desires. They help you to keep focused and paying attention.

If you focus on improving a specific key area of your business for example, your RAS will pass through sights, sounds, people and ideas that are related to your point of focus. It is said that simply creating a budget will save you between ten and thirty percent of your expenditure! How can simply budgeting achieve such a task? In other words, if you measure that area of your focus visibly, frequently and attentively, it will likely improve. You may find yourself saying, “I don’t need to spend so much on treats” and your spending pattern improves.

Set simple goals and include metrics.

Here’s my suggestion: Identify the two to five key measurements and key indicators that are important and essential for your business or your life. Set up an active system to measure and track these indicators. An exercise plan or health plan for example. Talk to your employees or friends about it at every opportunity. Put charts and graphs of these indicators on your wall. Make your interest in these metrics very active and visible.

If you set up measurements that indicate if your activities are working or not, chances are, you’ll get what you’re looking for; improvements in these areas. In fact, you can count on it.

Last year for example I programmed my RAS (using NLP) to attune my focus towards health. Since then I have lost 9 kilograms (19.84 pounds) and I am fitter and much healthier. I set simple goals; to actively exercise for a minimum of one-hour a day (one metric), take a minimum of 5,000 steps each day (two metrics), and I weigh myself (three metrics), look in the mirror (four metrics) and check in with my overall feelings of well-being (five metrics).

From a scientific point of view, the RAS is involved with the sleep/wake cycle and damage to the RAS can lead to permanent coma. It is thought to be the area affected by many psychotropic drugs. General anaesthetics work through their effect on the Reticular Formation. Fibres from the Reticular Formation are also vital in controlling respiratory and cardiac rhythms and other essential functions.

The Reticular Activating System has received attention from neuroscientists interested in various pathological conditions affecting behaviour, such as Alzheimer’s Disease. More recently, results of research on the area has prompted extrapolations from the data into various areas such as motivational programmes (for example, Getting Things Done) and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).

The RAS is a structure in the brain stem that is responsible for arousal and sleep. The RAS is responsible for getting you up in the morning and putting you asleep at night – it makes sense then why your RAS awakens you, alerts you like an alarm to those things that are in the forefront of your consciousness. So in closing – set your RAS to what you would like to manifest into your life. Make a decision to focus in an area of your life that you wish to vastly improve. Set up your measurements that tell you that you are progressing and if your behaviour doesn’t change, consider learning or mastering NLP.