Why You Must Challenge Your Beliefs?

Why You Must Challenge Your Beliefs?

What we see or experience determines our reality. Though is it truly reality? After all, a snake can see colours that you cannot. A dog can smell aromas that you obliviously walk passed. A medium can hear voices that you never will, particularly while you believe that speaking to the dead is impossible. Does this mean that anything other than what you experience exists? The answer is yes… and no.

The snake and the dog have stimulated and built neurological pathways that you can too access, but don’t. Dogs for example have developed, over time, millions more neurological receptors that connect their sense of smell to their brain. Why? Because they rely on food to survive, while we relied on mum and dad. While speaking to the dead may too require a neurological pathway to exist – this leads more into the realm of beliefs.

I’ve been a coach since 2002 and trainer since 2004, and one thing that I’ve learned in those 17 years is that “We believe what we see and so, we see what we believe.” That doesn’t mean that anything we don’t believe doesn’t exist. When I’m coaching someone to achieve something they as yet have not, for example, I must first help them to see the path of possibility – or they will never take that first courageous step.

So it could be said, “Our consciousness is defined by what we believe is possible.” Therefore, to expand what is possible for us, we must open our minds to previously unbelievable possibilities in order to expand our consciousness. Let me give you a personal, real life example.

Prior to 2004, my financial world could be described as a roller-coaster. I would go from having more money than I needed, to no money. Healthy bank balance to nil bank balance. Now nothing new truly happens until we make a new decision. So in 2004 I made a decision to change my mindset – and I mean go deep and change it for good. So I journeyed to find out ‘why’ my financial world was so limited and decided to study NLP. After all, my NLP Trainer sounded a lot like the broke version of me, yet he had solved his financial problems, I had not.

NLP couldn’t have come at a better time.

It was 2004. I was $70,000 in debt and I had $27 in the bank. I was desperate. I began working out what I needed to sell to get myself out of this ridiculous situation. This crazy consciousness cycle. However, in studying NLP, I learned that our belief system is like an ON or OFF button. If we believe something is true, our button of possibility is ON. If we believe something is untrue, then our button of possibility is OFF and we will never take any action that is counter-intuitive to our beliefs.

So I began exploring what I truly believed about my situation. How did I feel about the relationship between money and me? What was I conscious of when it came to money? What did I believe? My answers saddened me and I could see why I never truly wanted to answer those questions.

My beliefs became my stories; I would never succeed at making a lot of money. I was that poor kid. I am the guy that was always at the end of the queue when anything was being doled out. Ouch! That hurt.

Then and there, I decided to change all of my negative money beliefs. I soon discovered that there were many beliefs and I changed them all using a technique I learned in my NLP Training in Melbourne. Here are just some of them…

Money doesn’t grow on trees

(the nut and fruit industries beg to differ)

You have to work hard to make a lot of money

(While Richard Branson, Warren Buffet and Bill Gates and friends may have worked hard at some stage, they certainly don’t today)

I came from a poor family, therefore I’m more likely to be poor

(Many of today’s billionaires, came from humble beginnings)

People like you and me weren’t meant to wealthy

(Beliefs like that will ensure you’re right)

I’m sure you’re getting the idea by now. So there I was, listing as many of my crappy money beliefs as I could and changing them one by one. In no time flat, I started to feel much better about money and myself. This might sound strange, but it seemed as though I was taller, smarter and certainly more hopeful. These were the keys to my prosperity to come.

“All is possible for he who believes – Jesus Christ”

Now sayings like the one above used to have me being a tad cynical, until my NLP Trainer told me that “Cynicism and skepticism are just fear, intellectualised to sound intelligent.” I began to realise that changing your beliefs to bring about more hope are not stupid. They are in fact, courageous. While most people thought my new beliefs around prosperity were preposterous! I knew, they were just being fearful. My new beliefs actually challenged or aptly threatened their logic. Though what I realised was that beliefs unchallenged is a life unchanged.

Beliefs unchallenged is a life unchanged

Our beliefs are simply designed to keep us safe. Though a safe life (in my view) is not really a life at all. Where there is no challenge there is no growth. Our very ‘firsts’ are naturally scary. Our first steps; our first kiss; our first day on the job; but each of those firsts expand our consciousness of what is possible. Challenges lead to change.

So how did I go changing all of those beliefs?

We’ll remember my money issues? We’ll I recall four things that happened after changing my beliefs that literally blew my mind! The first happened in a phone call I received while at work where I earned half a year’s salary in that one call. That happened twice in a row. Then I got another phone call where I earned an entire annual salary in that call! Then I started my Life Beyond Limits and in one talk, in less than an hour, I earned 3 months income! These were not the results of the man who before learning NLP couldn’t earn more than five-figures in a year!

Today, I can make in a day, as much money as I used to make in a year! Seriously! This was once impossible for me. My beliefs wouldn’t even let me risk the opportunity to earn more. If you’re finding this hard to believe, then the truth is I am not the person who you should question. Perhaps you should question yourself? Will I challenge myself to reach higher, to go further and challenge my beliefs? Will I risk being scared? The answer “Yes” offers you the possibility of a new prosperous life. The answer no? Well, you know the answer to that one.

Today, my greatest joy is to teach and coach people to go beyond their consciousness. It’s a great buzz to see your clients and students do today what they couldn’t yesterday. I guess it’s like the joy that parents get when their children do something they once couldn’t.

To go way beyond what is currently possible and into a world of hope, imagination and where dreams begin. Each time I do that for others, I’m a little scared, because it’s not just about me stretching the limits, I now have a client, a partner who is courageous and willing. Though anything worth experiencing, usually has an element of overcoming fear about it.

That’s why I believe in teachers, coaches and mentors. People that will take you beyond where you’ve been. To stand at the feet of giants is courage. To be at the doorway of infinite opportunity is at times overwhelming. But better that, then living an underwhelming life, a life of limits.

If you want more from your life? You must challenge your beliefs… 

Let’s face it, few people are ready to live a life beyond limits. Few have the courage and that is why it’s a small percentage of the population that live extraordinary lives. But they’re the ones I work with. If that’s you, let’s talk. It will cost you nothing but the time it takes to have a chat with me, to see what is truly possible for you, if you are willing to stand at the feet of giants, go ahead, let’s schedule a call: Talk to R!k today by completing the form on this page.

NLP Training Melbourne – Why This Course Transforms Your World

In May this year (2019), I’m teaching my final NLP Practitioner Training in Melbourne. So the question is why would I stop teaching “The most transformational course available in Melbourne?” The answer is simple, yet most are finding it hard to understand.

I’ve been teaching this course now for 15 years and while my students are totally transforming their careers, businesses, relationships, wealth and health by doing this course – I am not. I’ve stagnated.

Don’t get me wrong, I love teaching NLP Practitioner Training and Life Coach Training, but it’s time that I equally stretched my wings.

When you’ve done over 22,000 hours of coaching and training – you can do it in your sleep – and I do, often. I actually dream about teaching NLP Practitioner Training in Melbourne – sometimes from up on the rafters and sometimes from the back of the room, sometimes in another country – but that’s dreams for  you.

But why quit teaching NLP Practitioner Training now?

I always want to remain an advocate for this training. After all, where else can you learn to massively improve your external and more importantly, your internal communication?

What other course can you totally transform your mindset and shift your beliefs and break your debilitating patterns?

And as a Coach, Manager, Trainer or Leader, where else can you master your language in such a way that it helps you and your teams and your clients to achieve their goals and reach the unreachable?

So I will always remain a staunch advocate for NLP Practitioner Training because I believe that it helps it’s students to live the sort of life, that without it, is near impossible.

Edward DeBono once said, “If there was only ONE course that I could do in my life, it would be learning NLP.” Once you’ve done it, you’ll know exactly why.

If you want to take part in my final NLP Practitioner Training Melbourne, call us on 03 8669 1121 or register here or here for the online training.

Harness Your Self-Healing Power Through Meditation

Harness Your Self-Healing Power Through Meditation

Story by Cassie Steele. Photo by Guillaume de Germain on Unsplash.

Mindfulness is a technique spreading rapidly, after studies by Australian and American researchers showed that it reduces grey matter and therefore helps to maintain proper brain function. If you want to grow as a person, then you will need to achieve the highest level of mental clarity. Meditation is a way to beat stress, take control of emotions and overcome obstacles. To heal yourself and become a better person, consider engaging in Buddhist inspired meditation activities. This will help you to reduce anger, increase love and ultimately achieve even the most impossible sounding life goals.

Take Control of Your Anger

Anger is something that all humans could do with reducing. It will cause you to act without clarity, meaning you make mistakes, and hinder the formation of relationships.
However, meditation can have a powerful effect. A study published in Consciousness and Cognition journal found that just one 20 minute meditation session caused a decrease in blood pressure, breathing rate and heart when the meditater later experienced anger.

If you feel yourself becoming angry, take a few deep breaths. Focus on that feeling in your body. Really concentrate on it and notice the feeling begin to dissipate. You will quickly learn that anger is a temporary emotion, which is manufactured in the brain. Using meditation, you can clear your mind and act with reason and rationality.

Enter a State of Love and Kindness

Connecting to something transcendent won’t just benefit you, but others around you. You can meditate on the inherent value of other beings, viewing them as creatures worthy of respect and compassion. This will come back around to help you achieve your goals, as more people wish to work with you and offer the same respect in return. A study in the American Journal of Public Health found that kindergarten students who shared their toys were more likely to graduate college and get a job before 25, showing the power of kindness in achieving success.

Focus on Your Dreams, Make Them a Reality

Visualisation is the practice of meditating on a life goal. By intensely imagining the place you want to be in life, you can help to make it a reality. Often, people consider their dreams to be impossible, but researchers studying the brain patterns of weightlifters found the same neural pathways were activated whether they were really lifting weights or just imagining it. Therefore, through visualization, you are strengthening the neurochemistry required to achieve a goal. This is a technique used by many successful stars such as Jim Carrey and Arnold Schwarzenegger.

Meditation is an essential part of staying sane in a busy world. Beyond lowering stress, it will reduce anger so that you can make wiser decisions. It will also help you to be a kinder person, so that you can stop competing and start working with others to build success. Through visualization, you can further bring your dreams towards you until they become a reality.

Cassie Steele is a professional freelance writer with a passion for the spiritual world and nurturing her connection with her inner self. She loves to spend time in nature and when not working, is often found outside exploring the great outdoors.

NLP Success Pattern: Create your best year yet!

NLP Success Pattern: Create your best year yet!

NLP success patterns can improve any area of your life. One thing is as certain as New Year is coming is that people love familiar patterns. Though our patterns are not always helpful. Psuccess patternatterns help us to function without consciously thinking about what we’re doing – patterns are held in the unconscious. Patterns maintain the status quo and they’re the very reason we keep on doing the same things. Patterns are also the reason we so often don’t get what we consciously want. It’s also why new year’s resolutions don’t stick. We get stuck in our patterns and, without the tools or the know-how, we get ourselves into ‘ruts’. Ruts are merely patterns we want to break, but don’t know how. Here are some simple ideas for you to create an NLP success pattern and enjoy the best year yet. Keep reading →

What’s it like working with a Coach?

What’s it like working with a Coach?

I have coached professionally since 2002 and back in 2004 I started teaching coaches how to coach using NLP.

I learned business from my many business start-ups and have successfully sold some of them (I started a tattoo business when I was six and had no idea that I could have actually sold it). I used to think that my greatest learnings happened when I ran multi-million-dollar advertising agencies, but those pale in comparison to what I learned starting a coaching business. I gleaned a lot over those coaching years, so if you’re thinking about getting a coach, here is what to expect from working with one.

Firstly, your coach is there to help you. To help you to do what you previously couldn’t, so don’t get caught up on all the things that your coach will do for you. Remember, coaching is intended to get you to do the previously undoable.

Coaching is conversational, so if your coach does ‘Step #1’ (below) really well, it should feel like you are working with a very clever ‘friend.’

Not all coaching sessions or meetings are the same, though here is a guide of what to expect from your first coaching experience. While I’ve put them in ‘Steps,’ some steps continue happening while your coach is performing the next step. Depending on what your coach is helping you to achieve, the steps might include other elements and could be presented in a different order. My point here, is this is a guide, not a rule. So here we go…

Step #1: The very first thing your coach will do is help you to feel comfortable in the partnership – coaching is a partnership after-all. If they’re training in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), this step will be achieved quickly and you won’t even know that you’re in this step. You’ll just feel at ease.

Step #2: Next your coach will elicit from you what you want or expect to get from your coach meetings. Your coach will help you to get specific about your goals or desires or what life for you looks like without your problems.

If they’re NLP trained (and I hope they are), they’ll also take you through the ‘7 Keys for Success’ and help you to create what we call, ‘Well-Formed Outcomes.’ By the end of this step, you’ll be clear about the outcomes of your coaching, more-so, your coach will know exactly what you want.

Step #3: Now it’s time to identify the obstacles that stand in your way, between you and those outcomes that were elicited in Step #2. Your coach will continue asking questions to determine what needs to change or what you need to do.

Again, if they’re NLP trained, you’re in for some life-shifting moments, because they are trained to identify limiting beliefs, patterns, neurological pathways and conflicts that stand in your way and – they can help you to change at the most profound neurological levels. This is where the true magic of coaching begins and if your coach is trained to NLP Master Practitioner level – buckle up, this next step will be amazing.

Step #4: This is the stage where the coaching road splits in two. If your coach is not NLP trained, then you’ll end up with a list of tasks that you need to do to achieve your goals.

If your coach is NLP trained, then they’ll help to shift your thinking at the level of the unconscious (where you do things without thinking) so that you will be able to do what you need to do, to get what you want without experiencing the usual self-sabotage that most people experience. It now should be much easier to reach your desired outcomes.

If you’ve got yourself an NLP trained coach, they’ll be making sure you’re good to go after doing the neurological change work.

Step #5: Now for the plan. Your coach will work with you to map out the best way forward; a strategy if you like. There will be specific tasks laid out in detail and ideal completion dates and/or times. This way everyone is clear what needs to be done and by when. If we are to enter unchartered territory, we’ll need this map.

Now we know what to do next and we should feel like we can do all that needs to be done. If not, we’ll deal with those limitations in our next coach meeting.

Step #6: Now it’s time to end the session, but before doing so, you’ll work with your coach to decide when is the ideal time to reconnect for your next coach meeting. Remember this is a partnership.

Some coaches and their clients like to pre-arrange all their meeting dates and times in advance – and of course, this is okay too as it saves doing ‘Step #6’ at the end of each meeting.

The next session: Here you both address the list of tasks from the previous meeting, to see what was done and what wasn’t. Now this is not a parent/child relationship, so don’t expect to get into trouble for not completing any tasks. You’re both adults after-all. Though should there remain uncompleted tasks, this creates an opportunity for your coach to find out more about you – perhaps there are underlying issues surrounding ‘procrastination’ for example. This can be removed as a disruptive and unproductive program in the next session.

Coaching is an amazing partnership. It’s like having someone on your side, in your success team. They will see what you can’t and help you to do what you previously couldn’t. Anyone who is serious about success in their career, relationships, health, wealth and their life in general really should consider getting a coach. After-all, every champion has a coach, so should you.

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The Relationship Edge: Your first 7 seconds are critical

The Relationship Edge: Your first 7 seconds are critical

relationship edgeTo get the relationship edge, there are seven things you need to know. Because the very moment a stranger notices you, their brain makes 11 major decisions and a multitude of computations. Are you safe? Are you someone to trust or avoid? Do you have status or authority? Are you a potential intimate partner? Are you competent? Are you friend or foe? Are you selling, compelling or repelling? Keep reading →